Posts Tagged ‘strength

03
Oct
13

I need a seriously uplifting transfusion

booktranfusionI may be tired of being happy, but I am tired nonetheless. I am tired emotionally because I am dealing with a sister and a dog who are both battling cancer. I am tired because of the vitriolic polarization of our own nation. I am tired of no one accepting any kind of responsibility for their own actions or the actions of their children. I am tired of the pronounced evil I see across the globe. I am tired, tired, tired.

I’ve been emotionally and mentally drained the past month. Which isn’t to say that I haven’t been unbelievably blessed during that time frame; it just means my spirit is running low. I just can’t get my thoughts focused on what I’m trying to say. And then it hits me. It’s time for me to be quiet and receive, not transmit. My mind typically sees so many different things in just one moment or in a single flicker, so it’s nice to be able to drift for a while. I need replenishing. We all do. Our strength comes from outside of ourselves. We are not self-sustaining ecosystems like a terrarium. We need input to grow.

Put down the pen, the telephone, the laptop, the remote, and pick up a book.  As the Bible says, “Be still and know that I am God.” When I am tired, it’s because I’ve depleted myself. I need to refill in order to keep going. And the higher the pace, the more resources are needed. Many times after hearing my father, the late, great Charlie “Tremendous” Jones, speak, people would ask me if he was always like that. For those of you who have not heard him, he was quite the energetic force of nature on and off stage. People were amazed and envious of his boundless energy and unbridled enthusiasm.

The answer is ‘yes’. Growing up I used to think it’s just because he was strong or had a resilient temperament. And while both are true, the reason behind his ability to never be tired was his constant drinking from the well of words of others. People often cry out that they wish God would speak to them, or that they wish they had a few more words to exchange with a loved one. Well, the next best thing to hearing someone speak is to read their words. And in the case of someone no longer with us on this Earth, it’s the first best thing.

So I’m writing to you today, dear reader, because I started reading again. I was stuck; I was tired; I was in a rut. But now that I’m reading I slowly feel the life force flowing again through my veins. I’ve got some really tough and tiring times ahead. I better make sure my blood bank of a library has an endless supply of Be Positive. Luckily….it does.

15
Aug
13

What’s your DISC?

DISCThe DISC is a popular and effective personality-profiling tool commonly used to improve work productivity, teamwork and communication. The letters stand for Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, and Conscientiousness. Some people are high in some areas and lower in others but most of us are a varied blend of strengths and weaknesses across the quadrants. For example, if you’re high “D”, you’re assertive; high “I”, you’re a networker; high “S”, you’re dependable; high “C”, you’re organized.

However, there is a special DISC profile in which every leader must be high all four areas. That is your leadership character profile. Here, the DISC terminology stands for Discernment, Impact, Strength and Contentment. You need to score significantly in all of these areas to truly be a leader.

High “D”: To pass the litmus test of truth, you must have a keen sense of discernment. Some refer to this as your gut instinct or intuition, a heightened ability to sort the wheat from the chaff, even a spiritual gift. It is most certainly all of the above. If you don’t have it, you will make decisions based on distortions, emotions, ego, and even outright lies.

High “I”: How do you measure your impact as a leader? Do you leave an organization with more leaders than when you started? Or is it the proverbial, “When the cat’s away the mice do play”? Do you only make an impact with your physical presence? Or can the effects of your leadership on the organization be felt and referenced for years to come. No one is indispensible. They key is how long your impact is felt after you leave the building, or this planet.

High “S”: You have to be strong to have the character of a leader. You have to be strong enough to deal with the fact that all people are flawed and that we simply do not have the ability NOT to let each other down. The sooner you realize this, the sooner you’ll learn not to put your expectations in people. You’ve got to put it toward the vision, the purpose, and the mission. It’s lonely at the top. You’ve got to be resiliently strong of character to handle that and be ready to pay the price of leadership of character.

High “C”: You must be content with the journey, not with the status quo. The leader always has to be inspiring the people toward a common collective goal, while at the same time bringing out the best in all of them. It’s easy to get discouraged with the day in and day out of never-ending personnel challenges and business problems. However the leader can never display this emotion to the team. Responsibility will make you miserable if you’re not ready for it. Real leaders enjoy the trials and tribulations that go with the territory. As my father used to say, “You can be miserable-miserable, or happy-miserable.”

Your personality is one thing. You can be strong in some areas and not in others. Not so with your character. A leader must assess highly in all four areas of the DISC profile, not just one or two. Your strengths, not your weaknesses, are what define you as a leader. So put yourself to the test and determine if you are cultivating your discernment, impact, strength, and contentment with the journey!

 

 

 

30
May
12

please stop praying for me, i need all the problems i can get!

My father, Charlie “Tremendous” Jones, liked to shock people who asked him to pray for their problems. He would bow his head with them and pray that their problems got worse! After all, why should he pray someone out of something that God put them in to break them down and ultimately make them a better person? He joked that he was the only man in America who got cards and letters from people across the country writing and saying, “Dear Mr. Jones, please quit praying for me, I’ve had all I can take!”

Many would consider me a very happy and successful person. Yet you won’t know the challenges and struggles that made me that way. You only see how I have chosen to deal with these situations. My father used to jokingly call this “happy miserable” but he was dead serious.

If challenges are opportunities, if the path to success is through failure, then why do we wallow in self pity or run away? It takes maturity and accountability. There were times when I recounted my “poor me” situations for years to anyone who would listen.  What a terrible waste of time and energy.

At least half of the failures and heartaches I went through were due to my own lack of strength, discipline, or willingness to follow my conscience. The other half were situations meant to teach me some vital lessons about life here on earth.  As Charlie “Tremendous” Jones used to say, “Things don’t go wrong and break your heart so you can become bitter and give up. They happen to break you down and build you up so that you can be all that you were intended to be.” And yes, even things that go wrong due to my own shortcomings can teach tremendous life lessons.

Embrace your problems because sometime in the future, you’re going to cross paths with someone going through the exact same thing and you just might be able to impart some compassion or insights to them. It’s not about you; it’s about using what you’ve been through to help others and to grow as an individual. No one is ever successful being a victim. But if you look at your trials as a godsend, I guarantee you sometime in the future you’ll be a positive impact to someone who desperately needs it, including yourself.

01
Feb
12

more human than human

I’ve gone through some tough times in my life, every single stressor imaginable: death, divorce, war, moving; I’ve been served, sued, betrayed, dumped, and even falsely accused. Because of where I’ve been professionally and personally, I have a pretty big world view. I can laugh at what life throws my way because I actually know from experience, and not theory, that that which doesn’t kill us makes us stronger. And stronger is the only way to go through life.

As a freshman, or Doolie, in the Air Force Academy we would have Saturday Morning Inspections. Our beds had to be tight enough to flip a quarter on with crisp, clean folded corners. We’d stretch the woolen blankets under the old coil spring mattress support with all our might. Many of us received a cut from tugging in the tight space and even now seeing it on my wrist brings back a fantastic sense of camaraderie.  When I was serving on various active duty deployments we’d get a campaign ribbon for each particular conflict in which we served. Others who wore the same ribbon were united with you in serving in the same location or conditions, against a common enemy, for a singular good.  

The more I experienced the more I was able to identify with other people and situations. Communication is about camaraderie. If I identify with you the odds we will be able to communicate are exponentially greater.  Charlie “Tremendous” Jones spoke a great deal about communication issues in his speech The Key to Excellence. “I’ve been learning over the years if I can identify with you we can say a great deal without saying very much. If I don’t, we can live in the same house and die strangers.”

People who identify with one another begin to think together rather than listen to and argue with one another. This is the highest form of communication and the only one capable of changing the hearts and minds of mankind. It’s also the only force able to produce change in the world. Words spoken from a heart that’s lived out the pain, the anguish, and the jubilation of life are the ones that make us more human than human.




Tremendous Tracey


CEO Tremendous Life Books. Book Evangelist

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