Posts Tagged ‘self actualization

09
May
14

there’s nothing I can do for you

1558402_10152246465268552_539659896_nThere really isn’t. Happiness, kindness, sacrifice—all the elements that make us good global citizens are inside jobs. They cannot be mandated or regulated by any government or religion. Human nature is as human nature does. I look at some organizations that have well-meaning strategic tag lines such as Eliminating Racism, End Hunger, and Equality for All. We will never achieve these goals. And even if you believe we evolved from cosmic dust and fast forward millions of years, the heart of man is what it is.

One man’s kindness and altruistic intentions cannot transform another. Let’s face it, human love is not that strong or pure. Change can only come from within. So why even try to help solve the problems of mankind when it is a futile cause? We do it because that’s the only thing that gives life meaning until we shuffle off of this mortal coil. And in our efforts to live an authentic life, if we can be a walking, living, breathing billboard for accountability, and help just one person realize that the secret something that they are looking for is already within them, we have changed the course of the universe.

Being in publishing, a lot of people ask me if I think they should write a book. I tell them, “I don’t know, should you?” You see, if it’s not in you, it can’t come out. And if you have to ask, it probably isn’t. We are children of wrath and until you become a child of purpose your world will never change. Once we find our purpose, the answers become clear and we cease to ask useless questions.

When people came to my father with issues, he would stop the conversation and open a book. They would read together aloud. This tactic used to confuse and irritate me. After all, people came to him for input, not to read! But as I got older, I got it. Many of us have a terrible habit of not really wanting solutions. When we seek advice, we are really just looking for an ear to listen to our whining. We just keep talking with no intention of ever shutting up instead of inviting quiet so we can reflect, think or act.

The answers are already within you and you are the only person in the universe who can get you where you need to go. No amount of government intervention, money, personal relationships, or otherworldly trappings can ever release the real you. Only you can do that. And when your heart finally comes to terms with this life-changing truth you can finally do for you what no one else can.

Recommended reading: “That Something” by William W. Woodbridge. Get to download your free copy here!!

23
Jul
13

how’s your love life?

she-loved-life-I know, you must read on because you are not sure if I am really going to blog about my love life, but I gotta tell you, it’s amazing. In fact, I have never had a more energized, actualized, romanticized, conceptualized love affair with my life than at this very moment.

I hit a milestone this past week and I am so darn excited I could leap out of my skin….and I was already pretty loose in it already! I hit the half-century mark! And the reason I am so happy is that I now finally feel ready to conduct my next 50 year journey around the solar system knowing exactly how I want it done!

I am well aware of the many horrible mistakes I made, the pain I caused, and the idiotic things I did in my first 50 years. I am no longer interested in looking back at them. I have worked under the disapproval of various bosses who didn’t value me for the first 50 years. I am no longer constrained by what someone thinks of my skill set. I know what I offer; I won’t tolerate not being fully utilized and I won’t compromise my principles.

I am single; have been for a long time. There were many times during my first 50 years when I had someone in my life but never felt more alone or hurt. When I page through family albums, looking back over the past decades, very few, if any, of the people in the pictures are still in my life, yet I feel happier and more love in my heart today than at any other time.

Lastly, but most importantly, I am at peace with my priorities and finally have the confidence to enforce any and all boundaries that were so sorely missing during my first 50 years. The older I get the less I care what people think about me, hence the more I enjoy life! I can finally tell it like it is, in love, and never have a second thought about it! And isn’t that what we longed for during our younger, more insecure years?

So how’s your love life? Is it exhilarating?? Mind numbing??  Full of living out your most ardent passions? If not, it sure can be.  I am a liver and a lover of life! I finally cleaned out all of the toxins in my world and am free to move about the universe.  Each and every one of us can do this. It’s not up to any person or job to come and fill some self-imposed void. It’s completely up to you!

 

03
Jul
13

TGIF! Thank God I’m Free!!

FREEDOM Flag 3I am a happy person by nature. I am also strong and tolerant. That means I tend to attract those who are, as well as those who are not. Unfortunately, on planet Earth, the latter outnumber the former, so you do the math. While some people create drama, my life seemed destined to attract it.

I became aware of this as a young girl when my father called me a “weirdo magnet.”  So, after a half century of hearing thousands of bitches, complaints, whines, and excuses, I am turning that channel off.  I am finally free to be me, and just in time for Independence Day!!

Freedom from everyone’s expectations!

I am free because I am finally doing exactly what I should with my life. No more chasing other people’s ideas of what a good job is, no more going into jobs to fix what others should have corrected years ago. Why, even my father didn’t ask me to come back and run the family business on his death bed. He knew it had to be my choice alone. I also no longer expect bosses to be fair and ethical. I know that, while there are some who are, there are many more who aren’t. I no longer have to deal with them. I am free to make as much money as I want to give to organizations that I know will make the world a better place.

Freedom from everyone’s drama!

I am free because I no longer allow myself to engage in drama with others, including family members. I just give the old stormtrooper’s wave-off, “Move along, nothing to listen to here.” This may seem harsh, but the true cruelty is when you allow people to continuously wallow in their own self pity and poor self esteem. It’s like the old Nik Kershaw song, “You gotta be cruel to be kind in the right measure.” Emotional vampires don’t care about getting advice from you; they just want to suck the life out of you. Pull out the garlic cloves and holy water and tell them to be gone!!

Freedom from everyone’s manipulation!

I am free because I am true to myself and my beliefs. I don’t get drawn into arguments anymore. I don’t fall prey to subtle forms of manipulation such as false praise or subtle digs. I follow my principles even if they are unpopular, or they cost me a neighbor, an author, a boyfriend, or even a family member. We all die alone and in the end, the only person we have to answer to is God. Don’t believe? Then don’t you worry about it. And don’t try and bring me down because I have faith and you don’t.

You know you’re on the right track when you’re uninterested in looking back. The quieter you become the more you can hear. Know what you believe, and why you believe what you believe, so you can get to the heart of what believing is really all about.

21
May
13

exposure to experience

ImageA bird left the safety of its home to fly and perch on the branch of a different tree. It doesn’t fear leaving the old and taking up residence in the new because it doesn’t put its faith in the strength of the branch upon which it roosts. If the branch should break, the strength of its own wings will keep it aloft.

I’ve had some major limbs break out from under me, both personally and professionally. In each case I had left the old to live in the new with great optimism and hope. Sometimes I felt the branch beginning to give way soon after I arrived. Other times I had no idea I was truly out on a limb until the bottom fell out. In either case, I not only survived but flew off to the next branch as a result of the wings of my experiences.

One of leadership’s most powerful laws is Exposure to Experience: the more356 you know, the more you grow. The more you go down, the more you grow up. The more beaten down you are, the stronger you become. My father, the late, great Charlie “Tremendous” Jones, wrote about this in his motivational classic, Life Is Tremendous. He used to tell me when I was younger that I need to “earn my stripes” and that good judgment came from experience which was the direct result of poor judgment.

He also said that we are all born with an empty psychological key ring attached to our side and every experience, good, bad, or indifferent, gave us another key with which to unlock the doors of life’s journey. The more keys the better. So believe in yourself enough to truly know that any experience in which you give your all will enable you to reach heights you never thought you could.

27
Nov
12

Objects in mirror are more powerful than they appear

Long ago in a small, far away village, there was a place known as the House of 1000 Mirrors. A small, happy little dog learned of this place and decided to visit. When he arrived, he bounced happily up the stairs to the doorway of the house. He looked through the doorway with his ears lifted high and his tail wagging as fast as it could. To his great surprise, he found himself staring at 1000 other happy little dogs with their tails wagging just as fast as his. He smiled a great smile, and was answered with 1000 great smiles just as warm and friendly. As he left the house, he thought to himself, “This is a wonderful place. I will come back and visit it often.”

In this same village, another little dog, who was not quite as happy as the first one, decided to visit the house. He slowly climbed the stairs and hung his head low as he looked into the door. When he saw the 1000 unfriendly looking dogs staring back at him, he growled at them and was horrified to see 1000 little dogs growling back at him. As he left, he thought to himself, “That is a horrible place, and I will never go back there again.”

This ancient Japanese folktale makes an important point. All the people we meet and the books we read are mirrors. What kind of reflections do you see as a result of your literal and literary associations? What we project out from our inner being is what gets reflected back to us. Some call it karma, the law of attraction, or even divine justice. But whatever the case, it is an absolute universal truth in life regardless of your race, religion or reading habits.

By controlling our thoughts, we see happy reflections everywhere. By controlling who is in our lives and what goes into our minds, we continue to manifest even more positive reflections. Whatever feelings and attitudes we project will often be reflected right back at us by the people around us. And if we choose wisely, we can transform ourselves into a person who is happy within and projects happiness throughout.

15
Aug
11

working class dog

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.” Mahatma Gandhi

In Life Is Tremendous, my father and best-selling author, the late Charlie “Tremendous” Jones, recounts a time early in his insurance career when he purchased a boat. He was told this would be a great hobby to help him “get away from it all.” The problem was he was so passionate about trying to get into it all that the boat brought him stress, not relief. The reason was simple. He didn’t need to escape his job because what he did, thought, and said were all in harmony. He was that passionate about what insurance could do for people.

During the summers while my brothers and sisters and I were still living at home, summers were spent in an RV packed to the hilt with books, luggage and kids. We’d park at KOAs all across the country as my father drove us from meeting to meeting. This gypsy lifestyle was cool to me growing up. I saw the country, met lots of kids at the campgrounds, and honed my back-of-room sales skills. I learned how the marriage of work and fun worked at a very early age. Even today, to do one without the other seems very, very wrong to me.

Fast-forward to today. I, too, have a large family; however, my “kids” are felines and canines. I also get the opportunity to speak and travel across the country.  I don’t stay longer than the planned meetings to sightsee and relax because I miss my kids and doing my thing at Tremendous Life Books. I now have a better understanding why my father took advantage of the summer school breaks with these working vacations.

So when my number one canine son published his first book, True Blue Leadership: Top 10 Tricks from the Chief Motivational Hound, I figured why not repeat the same pattern? The basic premise was exactly the same: quality family time whilst spreading the word about how a book can change a life.

So we’re embarking on a six-city pawtograph tour. We’ve selected cities we’ve lived in together over the past ten years to pay tribute to all the amazing humans, hounds, and organizations that have been a part of our life. Talk about combining work and play, but then again it is the dog’s idea so it shouldn’t come as a surprise. His grandpaw would be so proud!

For details on Mr. Blue’s upcoming Stop Playing Dead book tour click here!




Tremendous Tracey


CEO Tremendous Life Books. Book Evangelist

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