Posts Tagged ‘purpose

29
Nov
12

Your best year yet begins the day you die

I recently sent a birthday greeting to a high school acquaintance when his name and profile picture came up on my Facebook birthday announcements. I said, “I hope it’s your best year yet!”  The next day I got a message from my classmate’s spouse telling me the individual had died three months earlier “so it was NOT going to be his best year yet.”

Her anger and disgust at my well-intentioned wish was palpable. In today’s world where everyone is linked but few know each other we often need to take a pause before posting our responses. People always ask how my father is. He passed away four years ago but I’m humble enough to know that not everyone in the entire world is aware of this fact, even my “friends” on Facebook.

I guess it all boils down to whether you think that death is the end of it all or the beginning. My guess is that from the title of this blog you know where I stand. And in the greatest of all of life’s mysteries, we will never know until life as we know it ceases. If it is the end of it all and it’s truly “lights out” what’s so bad about that? If it’s the beginning of it all and we have lived our lives to the fullest, isn’t it a time to rejoice?

Whatever you believe, live it large so when the curtain comes down on the stage of your life you can take a magnanimous bow. Be like Frank Sinatra who did it “My Way” or live a life in servitude to something greater than you.

Yesterday I got word that a dear friend of my father’s, a mentor and an amazing author and speaker, died. Zig Ziglar lived a hundred lifetimes during his stay on earth. He touched millions of lives and now he has graduated to Heaven. It was so beautiful to see the comments streaming throughout social media, the phones, blogs, and other means about how he had touched so many lives and the unbridled expressions of joy that he was finally home. His best year was just getting started!

People were rejoicing a life well lived and celebrating the ultimate homecoming, not posting snarky comment about Zig “NOT” having his best year yet. His family, although missing him physically, will rejoice the rest of their years for having had him in their lives until they are reunited. It’s his time to meet his creator, time to be reunited with other brothers and sisters in Christ, time for all the questions of the universe to be answered and the pain of injury, illness, and aging to stop.

Everything I do in life is based on eternal hope in living life as a reflection of the Creator and an eternity spent worshipping Him. The French Jesuit and philosopher Pierre Teilhard de Chardin said it best: “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, but spiritual beings having a human experience.” And if you accept this, your death WILL be the beginning of your best year yet that will last for all eternity.

12
Sep
12

Three Ways to Know You’re Fulfilling Your Destiny

When people ask what the purpose of life is, the approved response is “a life of purpose”. While this is absolutely true, it’s a bit esoteric and pragmatists like me need some more detail. So here you go:

You know you’re fulfilling your destiny when money doesn’t matter. Now don’t misunderstand me, when you dial into your true gift, you’ll probably be more successful than you ever imagined. This may be money, power, prestige, happiness, and/or contentedness. When you find your life’s purpose, it means you have dialed into the gifts freely given to you and have decided to invest them in the lives of others. This universal principle is rewarded infinitely and in many different ways. It depends on what’s important to you.

Before my current position, I always had great jobs. But when a better opportunity came along I was off to a new one. During my first year at Tremendous Life Books, I still did some freelance consulting work. I received the best job offer package I had ever gotten in my whole life and was happy to turn it down to pursue running a legacy business full time. You see, I had found where I was supposed to be and no amount of money could make me turn to something else. Similarly, there were jobs where I had bosses who were so miserable no amount of money could make me stay there one more day.

You know you’re fulfilling your destiny when nothing stops you from getting your message out there. Being a publisher, I am contacted by all sorts of aspiring authors. One individual set up a meeting with me to discuss his bestseller. When I asked for a copy of the manuscript he declared that it hadn’t yet been written. When I asked if he had a blog I could begin reviewing to get an idea of his message, content, and style, he exclaimed, “Don’t take this the wrong way, but blogging is beneath me.” I guess I was there to thank him for even considering talking to me about his future masterpiece…I’m still not sure.

People have this weird perception that if they publish it, people will buy. Nothing could be further from the truth. It takes years and years of knocking on doors, hitting the pavement, even giving it away. After all, if Christ’s Great Commission in the Bible was to share the Word of God (a free gift of eternal life with all your sins forgiven) what makes you think your message will be any more freely received and will change the world? I received an email from a gentleman who heard my father speak years ago at a Youth for Christ rally. He commented that my father drove all the way from Harrisburg, Pennsylvania to Schenectady, New York and was given a $100 honorarium as a gift. He remembered how thrilled my father was. This is proof positive that when you are in the zone, it’s all about planting seeds, not reaping rewards.

You know you’re fulfilling your destiny when nothing else matters. It makes me sad when I hear people say they’ve retired from working or they have to take several vacations a year just to get away from it all. That’s a true indication they’re not dialed into their purpose. You can never retire from your purpose until you’re dead. That’s the way life works. So if you’re breathing, you’ve still got a job to do. This single-mindedness will get you through a myriad of difficulties from the loss of friends and family who don’t support your work, to the myriad of naysayers claiming it can’t be done.

When my father first started out in life-insurance sales, he was told by one of his managers that he should get a boat. He did. Only problem was it brought him no enjoyment. While he was out on his boat, he wondered who was on dry land gobbling up all his prospects and clients. When people told him he worked too hard and needed to get away from it all he exclaimed, “Away from it all! I’m trying to get into it all!!” Here was a man who had obviously found his purpose in life. I haven’t had a “true” vacation since 1995. At least if I have a nervous breakdown they’ll find me with a smile on my face!

So can you live a great life if you haven’t found your purpose? Sure, but it won’t be everything that it could be. I didn’t really know what my life purpose was until I was 46, much older than my father was when he discovered his. He found his life path out of necessity, i.e., making a living, while I found mine while exploring life’s various paths. I may not have known exactly what I should be doing, but with each experience I got closer to discovering it.

It’s lonely living life on your own terms; few people do. We’re kind of an endangered species, especially in today’s world of collective consciousness, guilt, and debt. But it’s a glorious existence and one you won’t cease to pursue and claim once you take the first step. As my father said, “When you are doing what you know you ought to do and WHY—there is no price to pay.” So what are you waiting for? The universe is watching to see what you’ll do with all the gifts you’ve got inside of you!

10
Apr
12

Never say never, unless……

The word to never say: “Why”

Only children ask “why”.  It reflects something that has transpired and is the equivalent to crying over spilt milk. It is what it is and the only possible course of action is to respond. When you ask “Why” you are reacting, most often wallowing in self pity or making an excuse for not taking action. Instead of asking “why”, ask “how” you can move forward, “how” you can ensure something does or doesn’t happen again, “how” you can benefit from the experience.

The act to never do: “Quit”

You can want to quit, we all do, but don’t do it. Don’t ever give up on your dreams, your passion, or doing what you know needs to be done. If it’s getting tougher, it means you are doing it right. Trials are the precursors to triumph. You are going through the fires in order to emerge as something stronger. Don’t pull away too early or you’ll suffer a literal stress fracture. If we quit prematurely we set the stage to repeat the cycle in our next job, relationship, or group.

The thing to never forget: “Purpose”

Purpose is what courses through our veins. It’s why we get up in the morning and sleep only when we absolutely have to. It’s what drives us to take action despite insurmountable odds. When we discover that something worth fighting (even dying) for, nothing can stand in our way. It’s nothing to go against all odds when you are committed to the outcome. After all, it’s your reason for being on this planet.

Never ask “why”, never “quit”, and never forget you are here for a “purpose”. If you remember these three things you’ll be able to meet all the challenges life has in store to develop you and achieve your highest potential. They say “Never say never”, but in these three cases, make sure it’s the first word out of your mouth!

09
Feb
12

are you adding value or feeding your ego?

In today’s world of “overnight” successes, it’s easy to search for a short cut to notoriety. The beauty of finding our passion in life is that we’re dialed into giving back that which is best suited to us. But when we continually turn the focus from giving to getting or even trading, we stray from our life’s course.

If you’ve truly got a burning message that needs to be conveyed, you’ll stop at nothing to get it out there. You’ll use every arrow in your quiver to shoot your message worldwide and you’ll stop at nothing. Love for what your message can do for others must be what drives you. If we are not diligent in working to spread our gospel, we can get discouraged or complacent.

In the publishing world, most authors and publishing houses are driven by the number of titles they sell. But what if I publish a book that only sells a handful of copies but impacts a life that changes the course of history? Is it a waste of money? And in the realm of speakers, trainers, and consultants, we often attach a monetary value to our ego in order to make a living. But what if I give a free speech to just five people that inspires one of them to new heights? Is it waste of my time?

We go through experiences in life not for ourselves, but to share. It’s not about us. It’s about adding value to the lives of others no matter what we get in return. Walt Disney said, “Disneyland is a work of love. We didn’t go into Disneyland with the idea of making money.” As a business owner, I’m sensitive to the bottom line but life is so much more than that. When you keep your eye focused on the mission and your heart focused on service, the rate of return is exponential because your ego can’t get in the way.

It’s tough to keep our egos in check and we have to spend a great deal of time examining our true motives for our actions.  The greats in history are great because have given their all in pursuit of sharing their message. Will you?

10
Jan
12

give that dog a bone

There are lots of bones out there—the wish bone, the funny bone; but the most important bone is the backbone. This is the bone that gives you the stature to live out your dreams.

Charlie “Tremendous” Jones writes about the Three Decisions in Life in the bestselling motivational classic, Life Is Tremendous. They are: Who are you going to live your life with; what are you going to live your life in; and what are you going to live your life for?”

Determining what you are going to live your life for takes some real soul-searching. You can step in and out of relationships and jobs without even trying to work at them or giving them much thought. Finding what you are going to live your life for, that one true passion that consumes every waking moment and fills your subconscious when you sleep, is truly tremendous.

The closest comparison humans have to a dog’s bone is their dreams and aspirations. No matter how long it’s been buried or left lying around, when you come back to it, it’s all good. You instantly recognize it. It may be a childhood dream or your perfect job. Always have a bone worth burying and worrying about. A bone whose taste and smell you can’t get out of your nose. A bone that you always go back to and value as your most prized possession.

My father would go days without sleeping when he was on the scent of a hot project. Who can sleep when you’ve got your passion coursing through your veins, making your heart beat stronger, keeping your mind firing with flashes of brilliance? That’s when you know you’re motivated, when sleep moves down the list of priorities. The result of finding your bone is ceaseless activity.

And if you’re still unclear about what your individual passion is, the activity of helping others realize theirs will put you on your own path to discovery. As Zig Ziglar put it, “You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.” So while you may not yet know exactly where your magical bone is buried, it doesn’t take much digging to sniff out many tremendous ways to help others.




Tremendous Tracey


CEO Tremendous Life Books. Book Evangelist

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