Posts Tagged ‘meaning of life

12
Dec
14

all i want for christmas is a purpose in life

giftMark Twain said the two greatest days in a person’s life are the day they’re born and the day they find out why. Seeing as the first day happens regardless of anything we do, we should focus all our earthly endeavors on the second day. This year, give yourself the ultimate Christmas gift and find out what you were born to do.

So how does a person go about unwrapping their life gifts? Our gifts only become readily apparent when we use them. Therefore, at any given moment, there are thousands of things we are capable of doing if we are willing. All it takes is for us to act.

One of the most transformational books of all time is Victor Frankl’s gut-wrenching memoir Man’s Search for Meaning. In it, Mr. Frankl quickly puts man’s search for meaning in perspective. He insists we stop asking life what its meaning is because life has already given us everything we need to begin living.

The meaning of life is a life of meaning. There’s a big difference between a life that’s achieved success and a life that’s achieved greatness. Success is measured by what a person does; greatness is measure by what a person gives. The only way to give meaning back to life is to know why you are here and then it becomes quite obvious what your purpose is.

“I bargained with Life for a penny,
And Life would pay no more,
However I begged at evening
When I counted my scanty store;

For Life is just an employer,
He gives you what you ask,
But once you have set the wages,
Why, you must bear the task.

I worked for a menial’s hire,
Only to learn, dismayed,
That any wage I had asked of Life,
Life would have paid.”

― Jessie B. Rittenhouse

20
Dec
12

It’s the end of the world as we know it and I feel tremendous!

endofworld“The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.” Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov

According to the ancient Mayans, the world will end on Friday, December 21st, 2012.  Even if this prediction does come to pass, I’m cool with it. In fact, I think it’d be a tremendous time to go! I had never previously felt this way before but that was before I lived every breath with a committed purpose beating in my heart and pushing me forward. I’d always lived life hoping to find a better job or boss, make better choices about people in my life, and get certain aspects of my life together for once and for all.

My life previously consisted of working to make money to live a certain lifestyle, to solve problems and fix things, and to take care of people. And while these are all noble desires and outcomes, in the grand scheme of things they didn’t amount to a hill of beans. Money talks, but it doesn’t say much. No matter how many problems you solve, there will always be more. And the only person who can really take care of someone is themselves! Not to say that I wasn’t on a good path and did good deeds, it’s just that I wasn’t on THE path that mattered most: the purpose-driven path.

Then I threw everything I knew away and charged full-bore toward a singular goal, to change the world one book at a time. I no longer cared about job titles, active security clearances, living in a hip town, or even having a social life. I no longer worry about the trouble others have gotten themselves and their companies into by not doing the right thing and have no desire to come in and “fix” them. I no longer allow people who will not accept responsibility for their attitudes, no matter how many hardships they’ve endured, to be a part of my life. You see, I just can’t anymore. I can’t do that and be true to my purpose.

To persuade others that everything we need to literally live like there is no tomorrow is found in the people we meet and the books we read, I’ve got to live it. And if there really is no December 22nd, I am perfectly fine with that because I am no longer trying to become something in the future. I am just finally in tune with being what I am meant to be right here right now. And if the universe decides that since I’ve finally achieved total consciousness and it’s time to wrap up this leg of the journey, then so be it!

Has it been easy now that I’ve dialed into living each day as if it’s my last? No! I’ve lost some of the people I’ve counted nearest and dearest to me along this journey—some of them were family members! I’m still single. I haven’t found that magical person to complete me…I’ve truly realized that the only person who can do that is myself! I have added more adopted fur babies into my life, which has made it richer because they reflect unconditional love! My purpose is fed by allowing only the richest books and people into my life. So every day, I dine as if it’s my “last meal”.

So bring on the end of the world as we know it. I not only feel fine, I feel tremendous!! And I know the universe is smiling down on me knowing that I can finally exist within it without feeling the angst of the perpetual question, “what the heck am I supposed to be doing with my life and when am I going to get off my butt and do it??”

Goals are great, mentors are marvelous, and dreams are divine. But until you dial into living your life with an all encompassing purpose, you’ll always be hoping you have more days ahead until you can get it right. Frank Tyger said, “Your future depends on many things, but mostly on you.” If you are at peace with yourself and in tune with your purpose, the timing of the end of the world matters not.

29
Nov
12

Your best year yet begins the day you die

I recently sent a birthday greeting to a high school acquaintance when his name and profile picture came up on my Facebook birthday announcements. I said, “I hope it’s your best year yet!”  The next day I got a message from my classmate’s spouse telling me the individual had died three months earlier “so it was NOT going to be his best year yet.”

Her anger and disgust at my well-intentioned wish was palpable. In today’s world where everyone is linked but few know each other we often need to take a pause before posting our responses. People always ask how my father is. He passed away four years ago but I’m humble enough to know that not everyone in the entire world is aware of this fact, even my “friends” on Facebook.

I guess it all boils down to whether you think that death is the end of it all or the beginning. My guess is that from the title of this blog you know where I stand. And in the greatest of all of life’s mysteries, we will never know until life as we know it ceases. If it is the end of it all and it’s truly “lights out” what’s so bad about that? If it’s the beginning of it all and we have lived our lives to the fullest, isn’t it a time to rejoice?

Whatever you believe, live it large so when the curtain comes down on the stage of your life you can take a magnanimous bow. Be like Frank Sinatra who did it “My Way” or live a life in servitude to something greater than you.

Yesterday I got word that a dear friend of my father’s, a mentor and an amazing author and speaker, died. Zig Ziglar lived a hundred lifetimes during his stay on earth. He touched millions of lives and now he has graduated to Heaven. It was so beautiful to see the comments streaming throughout social media, the phones, blogs, and other means about how he had touched so many lives and the unbridled expressions of joy that he was finally home. His best year was just getting started!

People were rejoicing a life well lived and celebrating the ultimate homecoming, not posting snarky comment about Zig “NOT” having his best year yet. His family, although missing him physically, will rejoice the rest of their years for having had him in their lives until they are reunited. It’s his time to meet his creator, time to be reunited with other brothers and sisters in Christ, time for all the questions of the universe to be answered and the pain of injury, illness, and aging to stop.

Everything I do in life is based on eternal hope in living life as a reflection of the Creator and an eternity spent worshipping Him. The French Jesuit and philosopher Pierre Teilhard de Chardin said it best: “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience, but spiritual beings having a human experience.” And if you accept this, your death WILL be the beginning of your best year yet that will last for all eternity.

12
Sep
12

Three Ways to Know You’re Fulfilling Your Destiny

When people ask what the purpose of life is, the approved response is “a life of purpose”. While this is absolutely true, it’s a bit esoteric and pragmatists like me need some more detail. So here you go:

You know you’re fulfilling your destiny when money doesn’t matter. Now don’t misunderstand me, when you dial into your true gift, you’ll probably be more successful than you ever imagined. This may be money, power, prestige, happiness, and/or contentedness. When you find your life’s purpose, it means you have dialed into the gifts freely given to you and have decided to invest them in the lives of others. This universal principle is rewarded infinitely and in many different ways. It depends on what’s important to you.

Before my current position, I always had great jobs. But when a better opportunity came along I was off to a new one. During my first year at Tremendous Life Books, I still did some freelance consulting work. I received the best job offer package I had ever gotten in my whole life and was happy to turn it down to pursue running a legacy business full time. You see, I had found where I was supposed to be and no amount of money could make me turn to something else. Similarly, there were jobs where I had bosses who were so miserable no amount of money could make me stay there one more day.

You know you’re fulfilling your destiny when nothing stops you from getting your message out there. Being a publisher, I am contacted by all sorts of aspiring authors. One individual set up a meeting with me to discuss his bestseller. When I asked for a copy of the manuscript he declared that it hadn’t yet been written. When I asked if he had a blog I could begin reviewing to get an idea of his message, content, and style, he exclaimed, “Don’t take this the wrong way, but blogging is beneath me.” I guess I was there to thank him for even considering talking to me about his future masterpiece…I’m still not sure.

People have this weird perception that if they publish it, people will buy. Nothing could be further from the truth. It takes years and years of knocking on doors, hitting the pavement, even giving it away. After all, if Christ’s Great Commission in the Bible was to share the Word of God (a free gift of eternal life with all your sins forgiven) what makes you think your message will be any more freely received and will change the world? I received an email from a gentleman who heard my father speak years ago at a Youth for Christ rally. He commented that my father drove all the way from Harrisburg, Pennsylvania to Schenectady, New York and was given a $100 honorarium as a gift. He remembered how thrilled my father was. This is proof positive that when you are in the zone, it’s all about planting seeds, not reaping rewards.

You know you’re fulfilling your destiny when nothing else matters. It makes me sad when I hear people say they’ve retired from working or they have to take several vacations a year just to get away from it all. That’s a true indication they’re not dialed into their purpose. You can never retire from your purpose until you’re dead. That’s the way life works. So if you’re breathing, you’ve still got a job to do. This single-mindedness will get you through a myriad of difficulties from the loss of friends and family who don’t support your work, to the myriad of naysayers claiming it can’t be done.

When my father first started out in life-insurance sales, he was told by one of his managers that he should get a boat. He did. Only problem was it brought him no enjoyment. While he was out on his boat, he wondered who was on dry land gobbling up all his prospects and clients. When people told him he worked too hard and needed to get away from it all he exclaimed, “Away from it all! I’m trying to get into it all!!” Here was a man who had obviously found his purpose in life. I haven’t had a “true” vacation since 1995. At least if I have a nervous breakdown they’ll find me with a smile on my face!

So can you live a great life if you haven’t found your purpose? Sure, but it won’t be everything that it could be. I didn’t really know what my life purpose was until I was 46, much older than my father was when he discovered his. He found his life path out of necessity, i.e., making a living, while I found mine while exploring life’s various paths. I may not have known exactly what I should be doing, but with each experience I got closer to discovering it.

It’s lonely living life on your own terms; few people do. We’re kind of an endangered species, especially in today’s world of collective consciousness, guilt, and debt. But it’s a glorious existence and one you won’t cease to pursue and claim once you take the first step. As my father said, “When you are doing what you know you ought to do and WHY—there is no price to pay.” So what are you waiting for? The universe is watching to see what you’ll do with all the gifts you’ve got inside of you!




Tremendous Tracey


CEO Tremendous Life Books. Book Evangelist

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