Posts Tagged ‘life decisions

08
May
12

livin la vida laissez

The phrase laissez-faire is French and broadly implies “let it be”, or “leave it alone.” Helen Keller put it perfectly, “Science may have found a cure for most evils; but it has found no remedy for the worst of them all – the apathy of human beings.” Death by neglect is the most painful death of all. It is like dying as a result of one million paper cuts versus one swift, fatal stab to the heart. It’s irritating, agonizingly slow, and open to septic infections every step of the way.

I’ve worked for some laissez-faire companies, the ones that refuse to get involved even when they’ve been alerted something is wrong. I once wrote a letter to a CEO describing some very real issues going on in his organization after the chain dismissed my concerns. The only response he had for me was, “What do you want me to do about it?” The apathy is obvious. If the bosses don’t care, why should the employees?

The laissez-faire mentality can extend to matters of the heart as well. Are you a laissez-faire lover, meaning your relationship isn’t worth investing in? You just let it spiral down the drain until somebody files divorce paperwork or you just lead separate lives under the same roof. You can lead a laissez-faire home life as well, where you just go with the flow and refuse to deal with any of the issues in your life. Maybe as a parent you choose not to exert a strong parental influence; or maybe you allow a bad habit to form and grow into an addiction than slowly takes your life.

The greatest leaders of all time provoke one of two reactions: you either love them so much you’re willing to die for their cause or you hate them so much you wish them non-existent. As Napoleon Bonaparte so eloquently said, “Glory is fleeting, but obscurity is forever.” When you chose the laissez-faire lifestyle you’re like the fig tree in the Parable from Luke’s Gospel, all leaf and no fruit. The end result is destruction.

There is a sure-fire way to cure this malaise. In his motivational classic, Life Is Tremendous, Charlie “Tremendous” Jones says there are only three decisions we make in our entire lifetime. They are: who am I going to live my life with; what am I going to live my life in; and who am I going to live my life for. Once you commit to your life partner (and for us single gals it sure can be to ourselves) you are no longer a laissez-faire lover. You will work and fight to honor the vow you took. Once you decide what you are going to live your life in, your job becomes a passion and you realize that every workplace act is a reflection of your character and a chance to serve others. Once you decide who you are going to live your life for, you become full of passion for that goal, idea, or entity. And passion is the antithesis of laissez-faire.

So quit sitting there watching the seconds tick by. This is your one shot at life so make every aspect of it count. My father used to joke that a lot of people are walking around this planet dead long before they’re buried, but thank God he made it so we don’t stink until we’re put in the ground. Hang around great people and read great books to get you out of the laissez-faire lifestyle and soon you’ll be marveling at the newfound taste of living a fruitful and committed life.

10
Jan
12

give that dog a bone

There are lots of bones out there—the wish bone, the funny bone; but the most important bone is the backbone. This is the bone that gives you the stature to live out your dreams.

Charlie “Tremendous” Jones writes about the Three Decisions in Life in the bestselling motivational classic, Life Is Tremendous. They are: Who are you going to live your life with; what are you going to live your life in; and what are you going to live your life for?”

Determining what you are going to live your life for takes some real soul-searching. You can step in and out of relationships and jobs without even trying to work at them or giving them much thought. Finding what you are going to live your life for, that one true passion that consumes every waking moment and fills your subconscious when you sleep, is truly tremendous.

The closest comparison humans have to a dog’s bone is their dreams and aspirations. No matter how long it’s been buried or left lying around, when you come back to it, it’s all good. You instantly recognize it. It may be a childhood dream or your perfect job. Always have a bone worth burying and worrying about. A bone whose taste and smell you can’t get out of your nose. A bone that you always go back to and value as your most prized possession.

My father would go days without sleeping when he was on the scent of a hot project. Who can sleep when you’ve got your passion coursing through your veins, making your heart beat stronger, keeping your mind firing with flashes of brilliance? That’s when you know you’re motivated, when sleep moves down the list of priorities. The result of finding your bone is ceaseless activity.

And if you’re still unclear about what your individual passion is, the activity of helping others realize theirs will put you on your own path to discovery. As Zig Ziglar put it, “You will get all you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want.” So while you may not yet know exactly where your magical bone is buried, it doesn’t take much digging to sniff out many tremendous ways to help others.




Tremendous Tracey


CEO Tremendous Life Books. Book Evangelist

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