Posts Tagged ‘independance


TGIF! Thank God I’m Free!!

FREEDOM Flag 3I am a happy person by nature. I am also strong and tolerant. That means I tend to attract those who are, as well as those who are not. Unfortunately, on planet Earth, the latter outnumber the former, so you do the math. While some people create drama, my life seemed destined to attract it.

I became aware of this as a young girl when my father called me a “weirdo magnet.”  So, after a half century of hearing thousands of bitches, complaints, whines, and excuses, I am turning that channel off.  I am finally free to be me, and just in time for Independence Day!!

Freedom from everyone’s expectations!

I am free because I am finally doing exactly what I should with my life. No more chasing other people’s ideas of what a good job is, no more going into jobs to fix what others should have corrected years ago. Why, even my father didn’t ask me to come back and run the family business on his death bed. He knew it had to be my choice alone. I also no longer expect bosses to be fair and ethical. I know that, while there are some who are, there are many more who aren’t. I no longer have to deal with them. I am free to make as much money as I want to give to organizations that I know will make the world a better place.

Freedom from everyone’s drama!

I am free because I no longer allow myself to engage in drama with others, including family members. I just give the old stormtrooper’s wave-off, “Move along, nothing to listen to here.” This may seem harsh, but the true cruelty is when you allow people to continuously wallow in their own self pity and poor self esteem. It’s like the old Nik Kershaw song, “You gotta be cruel to be kind in the right measure.” Emotional vampires don’t care about getting advice from you; they just want to suck the life out of you. Pull out the garlic cloves and holy water and tell them to be gone!!

Freedom from everyone’s manipulation!

I am free because I am true to myself and my beliefs. I don’t get drawn into arguments anymore. I don’t fall prey to subtle forms of manipulation such as false praise or subtle digs. I follow my principles even if they are unpopular, or they cost me a neighbor, an author, a boyfriend, or even a family member. We all die alone and in the end, the only person we have to answer to is God. Don’t believe? Then don’t you worry about it. And don’t try and bring me down because I have faith and you don’t.

You know you’re on the right track when you’re uninterested in looking back. The quieter you become the more you can hear. Know what you believe, and why you believe what you believe, so you can get to the heart of what believing is really all about.


I lived life and all I got was this lousy T Shirt! Or, Failure Is an Option

If no one is responsible for the consequences of their mistakes or can claim victory for their successes, what’s the point of living? We may as well be drones, our lives flown pilotless as we live off the labors of others.

We no longer have high expectations. We give medals for participation. Eighty percent of the work is still done by twenty percent of the workforce. There are industries that penalize workers who complete tasks too efficiently. More people go on disability than payroll. We are told that debt will strangle us into servitude yet students are allowed to rack up hundreds of thousands of dollars of academic debt, and our country keeps printing money it can’t afford to spend.

Whether you agree with it or not, the man who does what needs to be done without being told draws the most wages, unless he’s on the government dole where his pay is guaranteed. Now, however, we are having a national discussion about whether or not the man who draws the most wages needs to give those wages back to those who haven’t earned them.

We are failing to continuously inspire the work ethic that instills greatness in others. Initiative has become a dirty word. Life should be lived tremendously as one triumphant pageant after another, not as a spectator sport. Yet everything now being taught seems to focus on patting oneself on the back for just existing while waiting for your next check to come.

As the Good Book says, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”  You can’t be a leader if you don’t have vision. The very price of leadership is vision, which is simply seeing what needs to be done and doing it, without having to be told and without the expectation of reward or accolade. Just doing what needs to be done, period.

Over two hundred years ago, Alexander Fraser Tytler is said to have described the cycle of democracy which typically spanned 200 years: “A democracy cannot exist as a permanent form of government. It can only exist until the voters discover that they can vote themselves generous gifts from the public treasury. From that moment on, the majority always votes for the candidates promising the most benefits from the public treasury with the result that a democracy always collapses over loose fiscal policy, always followed by a dictatorship. The average age of the world’s greatest civilizations has been 200 years.

“Great nations rise and fall. The people go from bondage to spiritual faith; from spiritual faith to great courage; from courage to liberty; from liberty to abundance; from abundance to selfishness; from selfishness to complacency; from complacency to apathy; from apathy to dependence; from dependence back again to bondage.”

So where are we? When the dependents outnumber the independents, dictatorship is not far behind.



i’ve found the answer to everything i’ve ever needed….me!

“You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him find it within himself.” Galileo

If only we truly believed this we’d stop running from jobs and people in order to find what makes us happy. In truth, we’ve got everything we need already inside ourselves.

I am blessed with the ability to fall asleep. I learned in the military to go into REM sleep during a five minute break. Power naps have become a staple in my life. I also am an incredibly light sleeper. Even the sound of my cat walking on the carpet in the room wakes me up. Needless to say, white noise has become a staple of my life.

Last March I stayed at a hotel that had no ambient fan noise to turn on in the rooms. I heard every word, laugh, child’s cry, foot step, door slam, elevator ding, ice cube dispense, and catering-cart rattle while I was trying to sleep. I went to the sundries shop and bought ear plugs in an attempt to block out the outside noise. Problem was, although I now couldn’t hear anything external, I heard every breath and heart beat inside my body. I think I could even hear my cells dividing! At the end of the three-day stay I was exhausted from lack of sleep.

I have another trip scheduled to this same hotel and have been searching for a white-noise machine to take with me. It had to be small enough so that I could lug it with me on the plan as I already had a ton of meeting material and other electronic gadgets to drag along. As I was lamenting my situation, my coworker told me to check out my phone, which I’ve had for two years, and see if there wasn’t an app for that.

I am tech savvy but I only use my phone for purely functional, non-entertainment reasons such as storing contacts, email communication, GPS directions, phone calls, and my schedule. I have one free app on it, and that’s the phases of the moon. (I always wanted to be an astronaut:-) When I looked at my phone, it was right there! A free-white noise app to download with numerous gorgeous background noises with which I knew I could slip into sleep-replenishment mode quickly.

What I needed was right there all along! I didn’t need to look elsewhere; I had it! And as I wondered at how simply my dilemma had been resolved through the assistance of a friend, I reflected on Galileo’s quote. What else am I struggling with right now, yet I have the answer sitting right in front of me? The answer is everything. I just need someone to help me find it.

Many of us are teachers, parents, writers, mentors, coaches, salespeople, or consultants. But it’s a great point to always remember that we can’t “teach” anyone anything. We can only help them find it within themselves. And if we can do that, we have truly transformed an individual’s life.

Tremendous Tracey

CEO Tremendous Life Books. Book Evangelist

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July 2020

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