Posts Tagged ‘human nature

05
Nov
14

It’s not me; it’s you…or is it me???

Self Awareness 2Self-Awareness is a Paradox.  The more of it you have, the more you realize how little you actually possess. It’s like the guy who tried to be tactful by saying, “Somebody around here’s deodorant doesn’t work.” His friend turned to him and said, “It can’t be me; I don’t use any.”

We all love to imagine ourselves as incredibly self-aware, but when a story, a point, a sermon, or an illustration comes up we always assume that it’s our neighbor who desperately needs to hear it and not us. Our time is spent judging whether our neighbors, friends, co-workers, and family members are blissfully unaware of their deficiencies or just too self-absorbed to notice.

Despite 61 percent of Americans acknowledging that a gap does exist between the skills Americans have and those employers seek, 95 percent consider themselves to be either qualified or overqualified for the positions they hold. With such a disparity, one has to ask themselves if they are ignorant or egotistical.

It’s in our nature to think of ourselves as much more than we are and to find fault in everyone else. To avoid this trap we must constantly ask, “What am I not aware of about myself?” In doing so we can cross the critical threshold from unconsciously incompetent to consciously incompetent.

Self-aware individuals speak with candor, admit their mistakes, thirst for constructive criticism, and exude a quiet confidence. They can stay true to themselves because they know who they are. They can keep their ego in check because they are acutely aware of their ignorance.  Power is not a motivator for them. Individuals lacking self-awareness constantly place blame on others, fault-find like it’s going out of style, and possess a firmly entrenched victim mentality. Their base camp is the Isle of Denial and they intend to stay there.

There are two proven ways to increase your self-awareness. First, spend time learning from others. Seek their council and input. Consider everything they say and do and how you can apply it to your life. Second, read personal-development books. How can we develop if we don’t read the manuals?  Life’s too short to make all the mistakes there are to be made, so save yourself some time and heartache and read….and never stop. As Gandhi said, “Our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world as being able to remake ourselves.”

09
May
14

there’s nothing I can do for you

1558402_10152246465268552_539659896_nThere really isn’t. Happiness, kindness, sacrifice—all the elements that make us good global citizens are inside jobs. They cannot be mandated or regulated by any government or religion. Human nature is as human nature does. I look at some organizations that have well-meaning strategic tag lines such as Eliminating Racism, End Hunger, and Equality for All. We will never achieve these goals. And even if you believe we evolved from cosmic dust and fast forward millions of years, the heart of man is what it is.

One man’s kindness and altruistic intentions cannot transform another. Let’s face it, human love is not that strong or pure. Change can only come from within. So why even try to help solve the problems of mankind when it is a futile cause? We do it because that’s the only thing that gives life meaning until we shuffle off of this mortal coil. And in our efforts to live an authentic life, if we can be a walking, living, breathing billboard for accountability, and help just one person realize that the secret something that they are looking for is already within them, we have changed the course of the universe.

Being in publishing, a lot of people ask me if I think they should write a book. I tell them, “I don’t know, should you?” You see, if it’s not in you, it can’t come out. And if you have to ask, it probably isn’t. We are children of wrath and until you become a child of purpose your world will never change. Once we find our purpose, the answers become clear and we cease to ask useless questions.

When people came to my father with issues, he would stop the conversation and open a book. They would read together aloud. This tactic used to confuse and irritate me. After all, people came to him for input, not to read! But as I got older, I got it. Many of us have a terrible habit of not really wanting solutions. When we seek advice, we are really just looking for an ear to listen to our whining. We just keep talking with no intention of ever shutting up instead of inviting quiet so we can reflect, think or act.

The answers are already within you and you are the only person in the universe who can get you where you need to go. No amount of government intervention, money, personal relationships, or otherworldly trappings can ever release the real you. Only you can do that. And when your heart finally comes to terms with this life-changing truth you can finally do for you what no one else can.

Recommended reading: “That Something” by William W. Woodbridge. Get to download your free copy here!!




Tremendous Tracey


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