Posts Tagged ‘fear

21
May
13

exposure to experience

ImageA bird left the safety of its home to fly and perch on the branch of a different tree. It doesn’t fear leaving the old and taking up residence in the new because it doesn’t put its faith in the strength of the branch upon which it roosts. If the branch should break, the strength of its own wings will keep it aloft.

I’ve had some major limbs break out from under me, both personally and professionally. In each case I had left the old to live in the new with great optimism and hope. Sometimes I felt the branch beginning to give way soon after I arrived. Other times I had no idea I was truly out on a limb until the bottom fell out. In either case, I not only survived but flew off to the next branch as a result of the wings of my experiences.

One of leadership’s most powerful laws is Exposure to Experience: the more356 you know, the more you grow. The more you go down, the more you grow up. The more beaten down you are, the stronger you become. My father, the late, great Charlie “Tremendous” Jones, wrote about this in his motivational classic, Life Is Tremendous. He used to tell me when I was younger that I need to “earn my stripes” and that good judgment came from experience which was the direct result of poor judgment.

He also said that we are all born with an empty psychological key ring attached to our side and every experience, good, bad, or indifferent, gave us another key with which to unlock the doors of life’s journey. The more keys the better. So believe in yourself enough to truly know that any experience in which you give your all will enable you to reach heights you never thought you could.

26
Feb
13

burned out or fired up?

569908-moreton-island-fireThe lone survivor of a shipwreck washed up on a small, uninhabited island. He prayed feverishly for God to rescue him and every day he scanned the horizon for help, but none came.

Exhausted, he eventually managed to build a little hut out of driftwood to protect him from the elements and to store his few possessions. But one day, after scavenging for food, he came home to find his hut in flames, the smoke rolling up to the sky.

The worst had happened; everything was lost. He was stunned with grief and anger.

“God, how could you do this to me?” he cried.

Early the next day, he was awakened by the sound of a ship that had come to rescue him. “How did you know I was here?” asked the weary man of his rescuers.

“We saw your smoke signal,” they replied.

Have you ever had something you’ve cared about or worked for stripped away from you? Our perception of what is good for us is often flawed. Many times it’s rooted in feelings of inferiority or fear, so much so that we may even cling to inhabiting an island that we know isn’t healthy for us. Human beings have acute short-sightedness when it comes to seeing the big picture.

Loss equates to great pain and, if you put your “vision lenses” on, great gain. Something or someone is being purged out of your life for a reason. We scream out in anger and frustration to God because we don’t understand why. Thank God that, despite the fact that we think we know what’s best for our lives, there are greater forces at work advocating for us whether we appreciate it or not.

Every time you go down in flames is a chance for you to rise like a phoenix from the ashes. Thomas Edison said it best: “There is great value in disaster. All our mistakes are burned up. Thank God we can start anew.”

02
May
12

don’t fear the reaper

Every negative thought that we think is rooted in the perception that we do not have what we want or what we think we should have. It’s tough to break this kind of stinkin’ thinkin’ when we are so bred to compare and compete across every aspect of our lives. It’s all about results, results, results. Those who get results receive the best salaries, the biggest offices, the most accolades. They deliver repeatedly and consistently and if they don’t, there is something wrong with them.

But when results become the sole focus of our lives, things can become quite scary and fearful. We find ourselves asking questions such as: Am I good enough that people will like me? Will I say the right words when I speak? What if nobody buys the books I publish? Am I qualified enough for that promotion, or so bad I’ll get laid off? Why, people are even getting so delusional they are clamoring in the streets over why they aren’t reaping something someone else has sown. We’ve come so far from Hartmann von Aue’s quote, “He who helps in the saving of others, saves himself as well”, that we have turned our own sense of humanity upside down.

This stinkin’ thinkin’ is going to get exponentially worse unless everyone turns their focus on the seeds they need to sow. As Robert Louis Stevenson said, “Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap but by the seeds that you plant.” As a business owner, if I went to bed thinking of the day’s results, I would never have the peace of mind to get a minute’s sleep or the courage to get out of bed in the morning. Whenever folks ask me how it’s going I say, “We are sowing a lot of seeds!” And I know there is no guarantee I’ll ever get to reap any of them, but that’s not the point.

We are put on this earth to sow, not to reap. The results that really matter won’t be measured in retirement accounts, entitlements, or even buildings, airports, or highways dedicated in our names, but in the number of lives we’ve touched, smiles we’ve shared, and totally selfless acts we’ve completed. What if everyone stopped saying, “I WANT”, and instead said, “I PLANT” and we all stopped fearing the reaper? We might actually return this planet to a semblance of its original state of Eden and become master gardeners of our own souls.

22
Jun
11

bringing out the action hero in you

Summer movies bring out the newest cadre of action heroes as their worshipers flock to fill the cool, dark theaters to escape reality and the dog days of summer. Mere mortals fret, but those who take action have been bumped up to the level of super hero.

More and more, I get asked about how to move past your fears and find what your true passion or purpose is in life. The days of any type of job security or pension, real estate appreciation or return on investment are gone, gone, gone, like a bat into the night. We are now living in Gotham City.

Anyone who’s lived their life void of taking action has been living in Gotham City all along. They just didn’t realize it. When you don’t make your own decisions or create your own future, you don’t own it.

There are a couple of commandments you must embrace before getting your cape and boots. Life may be uncertain but it is predictable. “A good plan violently executed now is better than a perfect plan executed next week” (Gen GS Patton). Fear and faith cannot co-exist. Pick one now. Clarity is a myth. “Accept life, and you cannot accept regret” (Henri Frederic Amiel).

Your super power is not perfect vision, it’s taking action. Kapow! It is not stopping bullets, it’s deflecting doubt and leaping over obstacles in a single bound. Bam! Want to vanquish the evil power of Fear? Don’t just stand there, suit up and do something! Sock! It’s time to stop revving up your Batmobile and shove it into gear!




Tremendous Tracey


CEO Tremendous Life Books. Book Evangelist

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