Atmosphere Creator or Sucker?

My father, Charlie “Tremendous” Jones, famously said, “Atmosphere doesn’t come out of thin air. Somebody has to create atmosphere!” Many of us drift through careers and relationships wondering how they are going to make us feel, as if we are at an oxygen bar sampling its wares. What we fail to understand is that we are the originators of the very thing we are looking for. If we want a better atmosphere at work, create it! If we want a more open and harmonious atmosphere in our homes, create it!

I used to do a little routine with my father growing up. He’d call me up on stage and ask me how I was doing, to which I’d declare, “Tremendous!” Then he’d ask me how things were going, to which I’d shake my head from side to side and explain, “I hope things don’t get any better!” To which he’d query “Why?”, and I would triumphantly shout, “Because I’m so tired of being happy… it’s wearing me out!!!”

Now there have been many times through my life when I have not felt tired of being happy. In fact, there are times when I felt I wasn’t sure if I could or wanted to go on living another day, that my heart was decimated because of some type of betrayal, and that everything I tried to do right was met with resistance and hostility. But the one thing I did was keep a smile on my face and behave as if I was, indeed, so tired of being happy it was wearing me out.

Some may say that’s just a lie I told myself to get through the day, a trick of the mind. I disagree. If you believe that adversity holds the seeds of greatness, then every day I felt I couldn’t go on meant that one day in the future I would achieve success greater than I ever dreamed.  I was being forged for hardness, strength, flexibility and balance. So why not be happy? Why not create an atmosphere of happiness around you for others to enjoy? It’s just a matter of time and the sooner you start creating it, the sooner you get to enjoy it!

I once got a job because the selection committee said they greatly admired my enthusiasm and energy. What they meant was they were confident that I would create the type of atmosphere their organization and people needed to succeed and thrive. So what are you waiting for? Do you know how much your employer or family is waiting for someone to breathe some new atmosphere into the workplace or personal relationship? Don’t be a sucker; be a creator!!

5 Responses to “Atmosphere Creator or Sucker?”

  1. September 15, 2010 at 12:59 pm

    Charlie Jones was full of perfect wisdom, wasn’t he? I love the way that he made the fewest amount of words go the farthest. I aim to develop that skill. Thanks for sharing your wisdom as well.

  2. September 15, 2010 at 7:43 pm

    Hi Tracey!

    I had to read this article a few times — not only to let it sink it, but also to make sure that I was understanding it correctly. You see, I feel the same way and go through much of the same. There are times when I am decimated mentally and physically and emotionally and when left alone I will brood on the events or decisions that made me that way; but when in the company of others I won’t let on what’s eating me (at least I hope not!).

    My personal view is that my “misfortune” (for lack of a better word) is no reason to bring other people down. It’s not only that, though. The main reason is that I know such feelings are temporary — and I refuse to allow people to see them or hear about them because I don’t want to be defined by them.

    Thanks for this. 🙂

    Have fun … Tony.

    • September 16, 2010 at 10:27 am

      Hi Tony, having read your blog many times, I knew you would relate to this. When you said you refused ot let people see them or hear about them, that is also one of the biggest lessons I was taught by my father. I can remember him telling me that it is better to go to church drunk than to let folks see you discouraged or depressed. He was adamant about it and its great ot see you are too:-)

  3. September 16, 2010 at 11:03 am

    Hi Tracey!

    Going to church drunk … I can’t say that I’ve done that, but I’ll give it a shot! 😛

    On my most recent teleseminar, I spoke about something called a “complaint-free week” and I basically said it was kind of dumb. I still think that, but I think the kind of complaining that were discussing is right in line with what the fellow who runs that event is aiming at.

    I admit that I don’t complain or belly-ache about much to others for purely egotistical reasons: I don’t want to be defined that way; I don’t want others to see me that way; I don’t want to mar my reputation or the reputations of others with a slip of the tongue.

    Yes, it’s sometimes silly and I sometimes know that just talking about something is quite cathartic, but I’ll only speak with those people whose confidence I trust. ANd even then … I mull it over a LOT before it comes to that point. I admit that I take it to an extreme because of my nature, but this is one of those cases where my extreme is better than the other extreme.

    The other reason I don’t — and why you don’t as well as illustrated by your article — is that I don’t want to bring other people down. You’re right: Don’t be a “sucker” (of life, energy, life, spirit, momentum, whatever)! I often say that I don’t want to intrude negatively on someone else’s “trip.” We do that often enough inadvertently; why go the full monty with it?

    Lastly, as I noted, those feelings are at best temporary and at worst lingering and gnawing. For the former, it’s just a matter of letting them pass. You’re probably one joke or smile or jam on the radio away from it passing. Deal.

    For the latter, it might be time to do something about it. If something is gnawing, then there exists a persistent problem to one degree or another. Find it and solve it. It might not be easy, but it’s doable. It always is.

    One more thing, if I may: many might confuse this with the whole “fake it till you make it” idea that gets batted about. I don’t think it is. It’s about wearing a social mask and allowing others to see only what you want them to see and it can occur for a number of reasons.

    I never watched the TV show the Sopranos much, but I did catch a few episodes. In one, Tony I guess was feeling ill after an operation (I think he was shot in a prior episode) and his “gang” were starting to see him as weak, which was not a good thing in his position as the Boss. Sensing this, he started a fight with an underling and pummeled him rather thoroughly, thus putting to rest any perception that he might be getting weak. After the fight, Tony went into the bathroom and commenced to violently vomit and practically collapse. He was weak, but he wouldn’t let his followers see it.

    To a degree, we’re discussing the same thing (hopefully without the fisticuffs!). It’s one of the facets of leadership that makes the job so difficult. It’s one of the prices a leader must pay at times.

    But, it is what it is.

    Talk soon!

    Have fun … Tony.

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